Woman refuses to give entitled friend the green light to invite her new boyfriend on a pre-planned girls' trip to Barcelona, friend cancels the whole trip: ‘The plan was simple’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jan 4, 2025 7:00 PM EST

If there's one thing ladies don't play around with, it's a girls' trip. The entire concept of a girls' trip is to exist as ladies in a cozy environment where there's an absence of stress and pressure that tends to manifest when men are around. It's a bonding experience—but some women decide that instead of bonding with the girlies, they'd prefer to bring their new beaus along for the ride (whether their friends like it or not).

Here lies the issue in this Reddit story. The original poster (OP) has planned a girls' trip with her best friend to Barcelona, and she was really excited to finally have some girl time with her. That was, until, her best friend met a new guy and decided she wouldn't go on the pre-planned trip unless her new man came with them. Disregarding how awkward that would be if he did go, that notion disrespects their friendship in its entirety. The OP's bestie and her new boyfriend would likely go on couple outings, leaving the OP in the dust the entire trip. So, the OP puts her foot down, and the friend decides to lean into her petty behavior. Scroll to read.

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    AITA for letting my friend cancel her plane ticket after we argued about her bringing her new boyfriend on our girls' trip?
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    So, my best friend and I have been planning a girls' trip to Barcelona for months. We've always talked about doing this, and it was something we were both really excited
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    about. The plan was simple-just the two of us, catching up, exploring the city, and enjoying some time together. But about two weeks before our flight, she
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    started seeing someone new. I didn't know him very well, but she was constantly talking about him, and it was clear she was really into him. Then, she told me she was
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    thinking about inviting him to come along with us on the trip. I didn't think much of it at first, but as she kept pushing the idea, I got uncomfortable. This was supposed to be a
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    girls' trip, and I honestly didn't want a third person, especially her boyfriend, tagging along. I tried to be understanding but told her that I was really looking forward to
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    some quality time with her, just the two of us. She got upset and said I was being unreasonable, that I should be happy she found someone special, and that I was making a
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    big deal out of nothing. I felt like I wasn't being unreasonable, though. This was supposed to be our time, and I didn't want the dynamic to shift.
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  • The original poster was expecting a girls' trip, so it's not unusual that she was upset when her bestie decided her new boyfriend would tag along.

    When you create a plan, you stick to it (unless there's no other way forward but to pivot). In this case, OP's best friend could have waited until after the girls' trip to see her new arm candy but decided to lean into her entitled ways. That's not what friendship should be, and when the OP thought her best friend was simply bluffing, the best friend showed her true colors.

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    The argument went back and forth for a couple of days. I kept telling her I was looking forward to our plans, just the two of us, and she kept insisting that her boyfriend could just
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    come for a couple of days and it wouldn't be a big deal. I didn't agree, and eventually, she said that if I wasn't okay with it, she'd just cancel the whole trip. I
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    thought she was bluffing, but she actually went ahead and canceled her ticket. She told me that if I wasn't going to let her bring her boyfriend, she wasn't
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    going at all. I didn't want to lose my best friend over this, but I also felt like I was right to want some time alone with her, especially since this was something we'd planned for so long.
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    Now I feel guilty but also frustrated. I didn't want the trip to fall apart, but I also didn't think I was wrong for wanting it to just be the two of us. Was I out of line, or is she being too dramatic? AITA?
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    Square-Mini... • 8h ago • She is being dramatic and ridiculous. Also if she barely knows him it would not be safe to be out of the country with him. INFO: Are you still going?
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    VirtualPand... 8h ago. NTA. Two weeks is barely a relationship it's more like dating. Does she often throw herself into guys like this? You aren't TA for wanting to keep your original plans.
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    Petalwillow 6h ago . NTA. It was supposed to be a girls' trip. She was being. super inconsiderate and then threw a tantrum when she didnt get her way.
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    Leahgreenxxxx • 8h ago Honestly, I don't think you're out of line. It was meant to be your special time together, and she should've respected that.
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    Coral00276 OP 8h ago . this wasn't an issue with her relationship at all. I'm happy for her, but I just felt like we deserved some quality time together after a long period of not being able to travel. I didn't expect things to go this far, and I'm still trying to figure out if I handled it badly.
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    WorthSpeci... • 8h ago. Your (ex) friend showed you who she was. Go to Barcelona and have an amazing time by yourself.
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